Goodbye Grandma!

March 07, 2014  •  24 Comments
Last Saturday, heaven’s gates opened wide to welcome home my Grandma Avis.    I’m sure Grandpa stood waiting to greet her with arms wide open- a huge kiss and likely a pinch on the bottom to greet her into God’s Kingdom.  He always found the line of what’s acceptable- and then promptly pushed right past.  He’s been waiting 8 long years to have Grandma by his side again, and finally, the Good Lord called her home.
The funny thing about losing Grandma is that it’s awfully hard to mourn the loss of a life well lived.  It was a long life blessed with children, grandchildren, great- grandchildren, great-great-grandchildren—and all the love and joy that accompanies.
At the funeral, my 5 year old niece saw Grandma’s body, not understanding why she was stiff in a wooden box if she had gone to heaven.  I don’t have kids and am not often thrown into these “OH EFF!” situations where the answers are just too difficult to come up with…. But somehow, I opened my mouth and out came “Well, Jesus loaned us Grandma’s sweet soul for a while and this is the body where it lived.  But when He’s ready and our bodies are tired,  our souls get to go back to Jesus.  Bodies go in the ground; souls go to be with Jesus. Bodies get tired and can sometimes hurt, but with Jesus, our souls are happy…  This is a good thing.  You can be sad if you want… but you don’t have to be.  Wawa is smiling today since I know Grandma’s tired body got to rest and her soul got to go be with Jesus.”  Whether it meant anything or not, the explanation satisfied her curiosity.  I walked away from the casket, carrying Cady, smiling… because until that moment, I had felt guilty for my lack of sadness.  Before then, I felt that I was heartless for handling my dear Grandma’s death without a single tear.    But as those words effortlessly spewed out, I realized how true they were.  
She lived a beautiful life.  One that I envy.  One that I will spend the rest of my own days trying to emulate.   With the kindest heart I’ve ever encountered, she loved deeply- without judgment, without reservation, without stipulations.   She offered support and encouragement in equal doses whether I got a promotion at work or I taught my dog a new trick.  To me, different levels of achievement, but to her, any reason to delight in my happiness was joyous.   In my life, I’ve made countless poor decisions, but somehow, she never stopped smiling at me.  Never once did she show even the slightest inkling of disappointment.  Always, my character flaws and decision failures were met with a giggle and “Oh dear! Well, you’ll do better next time.” 
I’ll try, Grandma… I’ll try!
Her last days were hard to take with the grips of dementia digging in deep.  Grandma was lost in a sea of memories from 90 years of living.  She was mostly living real memories, but jumbling up the decades into a memory stew.  It was hard to see.  But, also provided the occasional comedic relief.  On my dad’s last visit with his mom, he said goodbye with “Mom, I love you.  You’ve been an amazing mother, and you’ve lived a life we are all so proud of.”   Her response… “Well, that’s good to hear.  You oughta go tell the cops that because they need to know!”  So, please- to all you readers, go tell every cop you know that Avis Crumbliss was a phenomenal wife, mother, grandmother, and follower of God.  They need to know.  
 
Goodbye Grandma!  I can't wait to see you again! 
 
 

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